Although it is a standard and sincere response to bad or overwhelming news, I think it's not true. In fact there are plenty of people who can't handle it and end up on heavy meds, committing suicide, divorcing and isolating friends and family, lose their job and have no money for medical bills and become crippled by illness or trauma, and yes, some just go crazy. Some people really go crazy. And that is life.
You hope you are strong enough, you hope there is a reason, and you have faith that you will survive, come out stronger and even maybe learn something. So to say "God doesn't give you more than you can handle" I think is not something I personally want to hear.
Tell me please that you think I am strong enough to get through it.
Tell me you think I am smart enough to figure something out. Tell me you think I am determined enough to find a better way and maybe teach somebody else something useful along the way. Ask me exactly what I want to hear from you that will help, and then say that.